What would you have done if you were diagnosed with an incurable disease? Would you tell your family about it? What if your children are still very young? Are you strong and brave enough to tell them and prepare them if you're near the end?
Tonight, I watched the programme 'The Mummy Diaries'. It is about families where the mummies have advanced stages of cancer and are dying. An expert helps them deal with the situation and prepare the children for the worst. Sadly in tonight's episode, the mum of one family died. Death in a family is never easy. Whether your children are grownup or not, it doesn't make it any easier. Another family featured in the episode tonight made me sit up and think. The reason is because they have 2 very young girls around the age of mine.
Two nights ago, I finished watching a Japanese drama serial 'Last Present'. It is about a career minded woman who found out she had cancer and has only three months to live. She left her daughter when she was a baby to pursue her career. With not much time left, she hoped to spend some quality time with her daughter who is now nine. She didn't want to let anyone know of her illness and planned to leave quietly. I have never ever cried so much watching a drama.
What makes all these so poignant was my brush with cancer scare not too long ago. It makes me realise cancer can strike anyone, whether you are young or old. It is particularly hard if you have young children. To think you'll not be able to bring your daughter to buy her first bra, explain to her the facts of life, know about her first boyfriend, see her graduate from schools etc etc. Like one mother from the programme had said 'I want them to know I don't want to leave them'.
Life is short.
2 comments:
You know, I've asked myself this many times before. And you know what? I find myself saying to Danielle, 'When Mummy is not around next time, you have to do this and that for Papa', already. How absolutely fatalistic huh?
If I were diagnosed with something incurable and had only mths to live, sure, I'd tell Danielle. But I'd try to help her see how I celebrated Life (even thru the affliction), so that she can celebrate it too, after my passing...
My heart aches at the thought of not seeing her get married, or her as a mum. Never holding her again and telling her I love her and how she is the best gift God's ever given me... actually my best ever gifts are Danielle, Dennis and my sis. If you ever meet my sis, you'd know why I adore her so.
Yes, Life certainly is short. But I'm not quite sure how to make the best of it. At least not yet.
I watched the mummy diaries too, and was crying towards the end. My hubby thought I went bananas because I was feeding Gabby then.
I had the same sort of breast lumps surgically removed before. There're now 4 ugly scars on my boobs. So i can totally relate to what you went through...
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