Marriage thoughts

This post is actually inspired by another post written by a dear friend of mine.  I couldn't agree with her more that 'marriage goes through its ups and downs'.  In our years in UK, I thought there were more downs than ups.  Perhaps we were too pampered in Singapore and what life threw at us in a foreign land was not quite what we had expected.  But in those difficult days, we grew to be 'stronger and more independent' so to speak.  

Coming back to Singapore this time round, our relationship is on the up.  Maybe it is because he has already completed his course.  Maybe it is because the children are older now and don't need our attention and care all the time.  Maybe it's due to the fact that we're on holiday and away from the hustle and bustle of daily routines in UK.  I think it's a combination of all factors.

We are more tolerant towards each other.  We hold hands when we go out.  We get to enjoy couple time away from the kids, something which is non-existent back in UK.  If only they can all continue (not expecting the dating part though) when we leave here.  Marriage is indeed hard work.  It needs to be nurtured all the time.  But the children and other family matters usually come first so we often neglect each other.  We forget to woo the other partner.  We pay less attention to him/her.  Any free time seemed so precious that we spend it on ourselves.  We will have to remind ourselves of the happy times spent here and not spiral down again.