My elderly paternal grandma passed away early this morning. She was 91. When I heard the news from my sister, I thought I should go back to attend the funeral. If I do so, I will take Lavigne with me since Louisa has to be in school and Adrian will be able to look after her. The thing to consider then is the cost. I will need to fork out about £1k which is alot of money. Adrian had offered to look after both girls while I go myself. Even then, the airfare will be £500+. I know money is not everything but let's put it this way, it could be used in better ways, taking into account our family situation now. Some people said that my grandma's gone so even if I am there at the funeral, she won't know. So ultimately, it is how I feel about it. Do I feel the need to be there? Will I regret it if I don't? That, I agree totally. It's all about how I feel. I felt I have to be there. After speaking to my parents and a couple of other people, I have reached a decision. I am not going. If money is no issue here, I will not hesitate much. But it is. I will say a prayer for my grandma instead.
Thanks, Adrian, for being so thoughtful and considerate.
Thanks, Adrian, for being so thoughtful and considerate.
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My deepest condolences to your family
So sorry to hear of your loss, dearie. May God continue to watch over your family as you mourn her passing.
Our deepest condolences to you and your family. It must have been a difficult decision to make, but you had your valid reasons, take care.
Val
condolences...
So sorry to hear about your loss.
Deepest condolences to you and your family.
Pa always says "Be filial and be there for the person when he/she is still alive. No point doing things after the person passes on." Saw alot of people whom I've not seen for many years at grandma's funeral the past two nights. Dua Pei flew back. I heard when he came, everyone stood up. I told Meng Gor you only get to see everyone at funerals. How sad but true. I heard Pa and Ma helped clean up grandma when they delivered the body back home. Both wept. Above money, power, happiness, family is most important. I guess that's why I decided to help Pa those few years, forsaking my own career advancement. Looking back, I'm grateful for those times although difficult. I got to know Pa for who he truly is. Thank God for my parents. They have invested so much in our lives. It's time for us to do our part. Just feeling philosophical...
I too didn't go when my grandma passed away last year. All the way to the USA. Lots of family and friends did tho' and planned everything.
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